Several years ago, someone said to me, “You’re on fire for Jesus now because you’re young, but when you get to my age, you’ll calm down.” At that time I was probably 24 or 25 years old, so I didn’t understand what he was saying, but now that I’m 30, I’m beginning to understand what he meant. Bad experiences will do things to you that they shouldn’t do. They can alter your thinking, make you think you’re powerless and are not able to make a difference in the world, and they can even trick you into thinking that the only person you can trust is yourself.

Suppressing your gifts and living a purposeless life of mediocracy is not wisdom, but it’s a reactionary form of thinking. People who never want to be disappointed again will stay away from people, situations, and anything else they can to avoid the pain of disappointment. But in our search of trying to stay away from disappointment, many of us live our lives in a constant state of depression because we’re afraid to trust again.

We’re afraid to trust people and we’re afraid to trust the process God wants to take us through so that we can make it to our purpose. Often times, the biggest enemy that will keep you away from living the destiny God has planned for you isn’t the devil, it’s you.

1 Timothy 4:12 says to not let anyone look down on you because you’re young, but I believe this can apply to the older generation as well. When someone tells you something enough times, you’ll eventually start to believe it, even if it isn’t true. The things we hear and say affect the way we think, and when our thinking is not lined up with the reality of the Kingdom, that’s when our potential to impact a nation becomes capped by the negative voices in our heads.

The big difference between people who change the world and people who don’t is that the people who change the world actually believe it’s possible. Walt Disney, before he founded Disney World, was fired from a job for lacking creativity. The person who’s in charge of the voices in your head is you. The only time you fail is when you fail to try.

The Bible says that though a righteous man falls seven times, he will rise again. It’s not about how many times you fall, but it’s about how many times you can get back up without letting discouragement or depression keep you down.

I once spoke with a man who told me that God called him to be celibate for the rest of his life. I thought that was a noble thing, so I asked him more about how his life as a celibate man. He talked me with for a few minutes and shares the pros and cons, but then he decided to talk to me about his ex-wife. When he started talking about her, I could sense bitterness in his voice.

After telling me all the things he didn’t like about his ex-wife, he later explained, “And that’s why I know God has called me to be celibate.” Now I don’t think there’s anything wrong with choosing to never marry, but the choice to not marry needs to be because God said so and not because of bitterness and resentment from a past relationship/marriage.

The voices in your head can be so loud that they can even sound like Gods voice with plenty of Bible verses to back it up. When a desire of your heart goes unfulfilled for a long enough period of time, it can grow into a lie that it will never happen. When a lie goes unchallenged for a long enough period of time, it builds walls to protect itself and it’ll find Bible verses, people, and anything it can to try and prove that it’s right.

The voices in your head can either take you to your promised land or to your graveyard, the decision is up to you. None of us were born to live in defeat because of suppressed dreams, but that’s what happens when we allow our fears and insecurities to prophesy our reality. Giving God full access to our thoughts will not only renew our minds, but it’ll also bring about a renewing to our hearts that’ll bring a renewal to our lives.


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